The Need for Both Fierce and Tender Self-Compassion in Parenting (And How to Do It)
You can find Kristin Neff, ph.d. online at www.self-compassion.org
Kristin Neff is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting the first empirical studies on self-compassion nearly twenty years ago. She has been recognized as one of the most influential researchers in psychology worldwide. She is author of the bestselling book Self-Compassion. Along with her colleague Chris Germer, she developed the Mindful Self-Compassion program, taught internationally, and co-wrote The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook. Her newest book is Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive.
What self-compassion is and the difference between fierce and tender self compassion
How societal gender roles make it difficult for women to embrace self-compassion
Why self-compassion facilitates connection with others
The three elements of self-compassion
Tools for practicing self-compassion
The Whole Brain Child, How to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind
YOU CAN FIND DR. TINA PAYNE BRYSON ONLINE AT WWW.TINABRYSON.COM
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson is the author of the Bottom Line for Baby and co-author (with Dan Siegel) of two New York Times Best Sellers—The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline—each of which has been translated into over fifty languages, as well as The Yes Brain and The Power of Showing Up. She is the Founder and Executive Director of The Center for Connection, a multidisciplinary clinical practice in Southern California. Dr. Bryson keynotes conferences and conducts workshops for parents, educators, and clinicians all over the world, and she frequently consults with schools, businesses, and other organizations. An LCSW, Tina is a graduate of Baylor University with a Ph.D. from USC. The most important part of her bio, she says, is that she’s a mom to her three boys.
About brain development and how parents can influence the development of the high-level brain functions in their kids
Tina’s formula for how to respond when her kids come to her with a problem
How to help your child integrate and tame troubling memories
About the name-it-to-tame it strategy
How Tina and Dan Siegel starting working and writing books together
How and When to Talk to Kids about the Birds and the Bees
You can find amy lang online at www.birdsandbeesandkids.com
Amy Lang, MA has been a sexual health educator for over 25 years. With her lively, engaging and down-to-earth style she helps parents become comfortable and confident talking to their kids. Amy’s books, online solutions center and podcast, show parents they really can become their kids' go-to birds and bees source.
Why it’s best to start talking to your kids about their bodies and sex when they are young
What your kids should know by what age
Why it’s okay to lean on books
How to protect your child from predators and misinformation online
Why frequent bite-sized sex conversations are better then just having “the talk”
How to facilitate protecting kids a community concern
The Power of Listening and the Healing Nature of Tears for Children
You can find Patty wipfler online at www.handinhandparenting.org
Patty Wipfler is the Hand in Hand Parenting Founder. Her 48 years of work with parents and children have given rise to Hand in Hand’s simple yet powerful parenting approach that nurtures the parent-child connection and helps children recover from adversity. Hand in Hand Parenting Instructors work with parents and professionals in the US and 17 other countries, offering transformative ideas and support. With co-author Tosha Schore, MA, she has written Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Parenting Challenges, available in print, digital, and audio formats.
The five listening tools for everyday parenting challenges
The elements of listening partnerships
How feeling heard by another adult helps us connect with our children
That children are, from birth, wired for connection
Why connecting with your child is far more important than fixing what is upsetting them
How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen
You can find Joanna and julie online at www.how-to-talk.com
Joanna Faber and Julie King are the authors of the new book, How To Talk When Kids Won’t Listen: Whining, Fighting, Meltdowns, Defiance, & Other Challenges of Childhood, as well as the best-selling book, How To Talk So Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7, which has been translated into 22 languages world-wide. They created the app HOW TO TALK: Parenting Tips in Your Pocket, a companion to their book, as well as the app Parenting Hero. Together they speak to schools, businesses and parent groups nationally and internationally, they lead "How To Talk" workshops and support groups online, and provide private consultations.
Why acknowledging your child’s emotions will help them regulate their emotions faster
When the right time is to give your children explanations
How to incorporate playfulness to encourage cooperation from your kids
How to use fantasy to help children work through their disappointment and sadness
Possible solutions for many common childhood challenges
Why We Need to Hold Onto our Kids
(And How to Do It)
You can find Dr. gordon neufeld online at www.neufeldinstitute.org
Dr. Gordon Neufeld is a Vancouver-based developmental psychologist with over 45 years of experience with children and youth and those responsible for them. A foremost authority on child development, Dr. Neufeld is an international speaker, a bestselling author Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers and a leading interpreter of the developmental paradigm. Dr. Neufeld has a widespread reputation for making sense of complex problems and for opening doors for change. While formerly involved in university teaching and private practice, he now devotes his time to teaching and training others, including educators and helping professionals. His Neufeld Institute is now a world-wide charitable organization devoted to applying developmental science to the task of raising children. Dr. Neufeld appears regularly on radio and television. He is a father of five and a grandfather to six.
Why attachment is foundational to our children's survival and development
Why the family system is more important than the peer system for growing healthy individuals
What’s happening for your child your child when they are separated from you
Why times of separation should be short-lived and followed by times of togetherness
What’s really going on when your child cries at bedtime
Why you should welcome, rather than dread your child's tears
The Opposite of Worry: The Playful Parenting Approach to Childhood Anxieties
You can find Lawrence cohen online at www.playfulparenting.com
Lawrence Cohen, Ph.D., is a psychologist and the author of Playful Parenting and The Opposite of Worry. He is also the co-author of The Art of Roughhousing and two books about children's social experience: Mom They're Teasing me and Best Friends Worst Enemies. His books have been translated into fourteen languages, and he travels across the US and the world presenting trainings and workshops.
The different forms anxiety can take
The four components of the security system
Why people sometimes get stuck in an anxious state
How parents can help be a calming force for their anxious kids
Why it’s important to validate your child’s worries before giving assurance
Why releasing energy through roughhousing or other vigorous movement is often more effective than deep breathing or guided imagery
How Culture Impacts How we Raise Our Kids
You can find Leslie Priscilla online at www.latinxparenting.org
Leslie Priscilla is a first generation non-Black Xicana mother to three children and the founder of Latinx Parenting. She has over 14 years experience working with Latinx parents, children, and families who are practicing ways of connecting and increasing their capacity for thriving while sustaining their cultural values.
Abut the unique parental challenges of Latinx and other immigrant families
How to reconcile cultural mandates to be respectful to elders with the need to show children respect
Mindful parenting isn’t new, and that indengenous cultures showed great respect for the child
That latinx parents have a full-circle opportunity to embrace their indigenous culture while embracing modern developmental research
What re-parenting is, why it’s important, and what it looks like in the moment of conflict
Why it’s important to establish and maintain strong boundaries
Connection Parenting, Parenting Through Connection Instead of Coercion
You can find pam leo online at www.connectionparenting.com
Pam Leo is a family literacy activist, the author of Connection Parenting and a new poem, and a future children's book, Please Read To Me. Pam has worked with children and families for more than forty years. From her work with teen parents, parents in prison, parents in recovery, and low income parents, she learned that all parents want very much to provide for their own children. She has "never met a parent who didn't want life to be better for their children than it was for them."
About what connection parenting is
The common signs that may indicate that your child feels disconnected from you
That one-on-one time is the best way to fill your child’s “love cup”
How to respond when your child has big feelings
Why it’s okay to demonstrate having big feelings of your own from time to time
How to deal with parent guilt if you feel like you’ve been parenting all wrong
How to Create Collaborative Relationships with your Children
You can find Vivek Patel online at www.facebook.com/meaningfulideas
Vivek Patel of Meaningful Ideas has been sharing Conscious Parenting concepts for over 10 years. The ideas he shares have been used by thousands of families to create more harmony and connection in their homes.
His online audience has grown to over 100 thousand people. He has written more than 500 parenting articles and created over 100 videos. There is also a book in the works. Vivek cares deeply about empowering parents to develop more harmonious relationships with their kids using a powerful parenting model based on Communication, Connection and Collaboration.
About the effect gentle parenting has had on Vivek’s relationship has with his now 25-year-old daughter
About the concept of horizontal power-sharing
How to approach your relationship with your child once you’ve decided to give up controlling, coercive means
How to break old patterns and establish new ones
About setting collaborative limits
Kangaroo Mother Care: Why Skin to Skin Contact is Critical for Babies
You can find Dr. Nils Bergman online at www.kangaroomothercare.com
Dr. Nils Bergman, is a Swedish specialist in perinatal neuroscience, is one of the founders of the Kangaroo Mother Care movement and a promoter of skin-to-skin contact between a mother and newborn. Dr. Bergman was born in Sweden but grew up in Zimbabwe, and then moved to Cape Town, South Africa, where he received his medical degree at the University of Cape Town, followed by a Masters in Public Health at the University of the Western Cape and d a doctoral dissertation on scorpion stings. He returned to Zimbabwe in the 1980s as a mission doctor, and started practising what is now known as Kangaroo Mother Care on babies born prematurely.
About Nils’ amazing work with new mothers and premature infants in Zimbabwe
How science is catching up with Mother Nature’s wisdom regarding skin-to-skin contact
About what kangaroo mother care is and its benefits for mother and baby
Why kangaroo mother care is superior to modern incubators for premature babies
How skin-to-skin contact with mom within the baby’s first 1000 seconds of life facilitates physical, emotion, and mental health for both mom and baby
What you can do if you missed early skin-to-skin contact with your baby
What you can do if you missed early skin-to-skin contact with your baby
Breastfeeding: Self-care, Myths and Normalising Nursing Beyond Infancy
You can find danielle facey online at www.thebreastfeedingmentor.com
Danielle Facey, The Breastfeeding Mentor, is a writer and speaker on a mission to help moms everywhere breastfeed on their own terms for as long as they choose. Her book, ‘Self Care: The Breastfeeding Edition’ is full of practical advice rooted in yogic philosophy and psychological theory to help moms everywhere look after themselves as they look after their little ones.
How Danielle waded through society’s negativity regarding breastfeeding to become a vocal breastfeeding advocate
Why Danielle eventually decided to embrace her Zimbabwean partner’s suggestion that they co-sleep with their child
The benefits, for baby and mom, of breastfeeding beyond infancy
Some common breastfeeding myths
Self-care tips for the nursing mother
A Neuroprotective Developmental Approach to Infant Sleep
You can find Dr. pamela douglas online at www.possumsonline.com
Dr Pamela Douglas is a GP-researcher and breastfeeding medicine practitioner. She is Adjunct Associate Professor with the School of Nursing and Midwifery at Griffith University, and Senior Lecturer with the General Practice Clinical Unit, The University of Queensland. Pam is founder and Medical Director of the charity Possums & Co., which aims to bring the evidence-based programs known as Neuroprotective Developmental Care (NDC or 'the Possums programs') to both parents and health professionals. NDC is built on 30 research publications, and includes the Possums Baby and Toddler Sleep Program, now available in free resources www.possumsonline.com and in Milk & Moon milkandmoonbabies.com. Pam and her team first began delivering this ground breaking approach to families in 2011. The Possums Sleep Program remains the only comprehensive approach to infant sleep which is evidence-based and which does not include graduated extinction (or 'sleep training') methods. Pam is author of a bestselling book for expecting parents and parents with babies, The Discontented Little Baby Book.
How Pamela’s time in an Aboriginal cultural led led to her work today
How modern sleep training sometimes sets up baby for an even more wakeful night
How the well-intentioned advice of professionals can lead to an increase in postnatal anxiety and depression
The importance of a sensorially stimulating environment during the typical adult wake hours
The things parents do that get in the way of infant sleep
Why parents should relax about the sleep schedule and not be afraid to socialize – with baby in tow – in the evenings
Beyond Sleep Training: Why We Should Never Ignore Our Babies’ Cries
You can find Carly grubb online at www.littlesparklers.org
Carly Grubb founded Little Sparklers to further the work that she began with the free peer support group, The Beyond Sleep Training Project. She is a passionate advocate for babies and families and helping new parents find their way through an often overwhelming and deeply vulnerable time. Carly believes in the power of lived experience and peer support in improving parental confidence and well-being. She has big dreams of improving the support available to families through bringing the realities and challenges of early parenting to light so support structures can meet people where they need them in practical, effective and timely ways. Carly lives in Mount Isa, in outback Australia with her dedicated husband and three wonderful young children.
About Carly’s experience with sleep-training
How the Beyond Sleep Training Project came to be
Why “attached” parents and babies don’t have trouble separating when the children are ready
What natural infant sleep and wake times look like
Why a mother should never ignore her baby’s call for her
Why all families should have a safe co-sleeping protocol
The Science and Wisdom of Birth, Oxytocin, and New Motherhood
You can find dr. sarah buckley online at www.sarahbuckley.com
Dr Sarah Buckley is trained as a GP (family physician) with qualifications in GP obstetrics. She has been writing and lecturing to childbirth professionals and parents since 1997 and is the author of the internationally best-selling book Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering. She is currently a PhD candidate at the University of Queensland, researching oxytocin in labour and birth and the impacts of maternity-care interventions. She has co-authored several papers on oxytocin in labour, birth and breastfeeding. Sarah is also the mother of four children, all born at home and now in their teenage years and beyond. She lives on the semi-rural outskirts of Brisbane.
About Sarah’s birth story that kickstarted the work that she does today
About the superb design of the positive hormonal feedback loop during pregnancy and birth
Why laboring moms might want to take a vibrator to the hospital
Why mom should be picky about where they birth and who they invite into their laboring space
About the amazing hormonal dance that simultaneously readies mother and baby for labor and delivery
About the hormonal gap that leads to the need for interventions and how best to shrink the hormonal gap once mother and baby are safely together
How to Talk with Our Kids about Consent
You can find Melissa pintor carnagey online at www.sexpositivefamilies.com
Melissa Pintor Carnagey is a renowned sexuality educator, best-selling author, and leading national voice for sex positive education. Her work with Sex Positive Families has been featured in Huffington Post, Parents Magazine, CNN, LA Times, and reaches thousands of families around the globe via an engaged social media following and monthly live workshops. Sex Positive Families is guided by the belief that all children deserve holistic, comprehensive, and shame-free sexuality education so they can live informed, empowered, and safer lives. Melissa is confident this work starts in homes.
What consent is
How to talk with your child about consent and boundaries
About some common consent violations
What to do when your child doesn’t want to hug the grandparents
How to create a consent-conscious culture within the family
Why learning to clearly say yes is as important as saying no
Rupture and Repair Through the Lens of Attachment
You can find Fiona weaver online at www.mamamatters.com.au
Fiona Weaver is a Social Worker turned Child and Family Sleep Coach and Professional BS Buster. She provides a relationship-based approach to early parenting and sleep support, for responsive parents and their renegade children. Fiona is passionate about shifting the paradigm and narrative of the mainstream sleep industry through advocating for infant mental health and responsive parenting building healthy attachment relationships. Fiona is committed to normalising the messiness of motherhood and baby sleep and empowering mothers to feel confident in their parenting.
What the components of a secure attachment are
That your relationship with your child doesn’t have to be perfect and that you can still have a strong attachment with your child
That ruptures in the parent-child relationship are inevitable and serve an important function.
Why it’s important that the parent initiate the repair after a rupture
How to initiate a repair after a rupture
How to incorporate play when making a repair
Brain-Body Parenting, How to Stop Managing Behaviour and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids
You can find Monda Delahooke online at www.monadelahooke.com
Mona M. Delahooke, Ph.D. is a clinical child psychologist, mother, and grandmother with a passion for supporting families and children. She has worked widely with multi- disciplinary teams in the area of developmental and emotional differences for over 25 years. She is a trainer and consultant to schools, public/private agencies and parents. Her blog and award winning book, Beyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children’s Behavioral Challenges explains a new body and brain-based approach to behavioral challenges for therapists, parents and teachers.
How to build resilience in your children
What makes highly sensitive children highly sensitive
About the “zone of proximal development” and the “just-right challenge”
That emotions follow the brain which in turn follows the interoperceptions of the body
Why “gentle parenting” is anything but easy. It takes self-awareness, growth, and the willingness to be a change agent.
A Dad’s Perspective on Gentle Parenting, Boundaries and Staying Calm
You can find Tom piccirilli online at www.thedadvibes.com
Thomas Piccirilli is providing a dad's perspective on parenting. Opening up the conversation of positive and respectful parenting with dads all over the world.
How Tom built his following as a father in the gentle parenting space
About gentle parenting and why dads might pull away from the term “gentle parenting”
About setting boundaries and holding limits
How to stay calm and regulated when your child is having big emotions
About Tom's best advice for new dads
Peacefully Parenting Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Promote Connection
You can find Sarah Rosensweet online at www.sarahrosensweet.com
Sarah Rosensweet is a certified peaceful parenting coach, speaker, and educator. She lives in Toronto with her husband and three big kids (ages 15, 18, and 21). Peaceful parenting is a non-punitive, connection-based approach that uses firm limits with lots of empathy. Sarah works one-on-one virtually with parents all over the world to help them go from frustrated and overwhelmed to, “We’ve got this!”
About peaceful parenting and why relationship is the key to having influence in your child’s life
Why the peaceful parenting approach is more difficult when there are multiple children in the household
About sibling rivalry and that the root of sibling rivalry is the parents
How to intervene in your children’s disagreements without delivering a verdict or solving their problems for them
How to prevent and heal sibling rivalry
The Evolved Nest: Why It’s Impossible to Spoil a Baby with Love
You can find Darcia Narvaez online at www.darcianarvaez.com
Darcia Narvaez is Professor Emerita of Psychology at the University of Notre Dame, Fellow of the American Psychological Association, American Educational Research Association and the American Association for the Advancement of Science. She serves as president of KindredWorld.org and on the advisory boards of Attachment Parenting International, Your Whole Baby, and the Self Reg Institute. She employs a lifespan, interdisciplinary approach to studying evolved morality, child development and human flourishing with dozens of publications and over 20 books. She grew up as a bilingual/bicultural Puerto Rican but calls the earth her home.
About the Evolved Nest and what humans need to have a lifetime of health and wellbeing
Why mom’s pregnancy and the birth process are foundational to her baby’s physical and mental health
That the way we treat our babies has a profound impact on the mental and emotional health of society
The 9 components of the evolved nest
Why it’s impossible to spoil a baby by holding them too much or by being too responsive to them
The things traditional cultures intuitively know – and that science now shows – are best for baby’s development
How to Raise Critical Thinkers In The Digital Age
You can find julie bogart online at www.bravewriter.com
Julie Bogart is known for her common sense parenting and education advice. She’s the author of the beloved book, The Brave Learner, and creator of the award-winning program called Brave Writer. Her new book, Raising Critical Thinkers, teaches parents to grow wise kids in the digital age. She's the mother of five adult children whom she home educated. Julie lives in Cincinnati, Ohio.
What critical thinking is and how to facilitate thinking critically in yourself and in your kids
Why ideologically based communities and relationships are problematic
How the fear of being shamed limits us and those around us
How social media and the internet are, in some ways, sending us back to the Stone Age
Why critical thinking happens in private
Why increasing your family’s tolerance for dissent is the most important thing you can do to safeguard your relationship with your children
Last Child in The Woods: Preventing Nature Deficit Disorder as well as Promoting a Connection to Animals
You can find RICHARD LOUV online at richardlouv.coM
Richard Louv is a journalist and author of ten books, including Our Wild Calling: How Connecting With Animals Can Transform Our Lives - And Save Theirs, Last Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children From Nature-Deficit Disorder, The Nature Principle: Reconnecting with Life in a Virtual Age, and Vitamin N: The Essential Guide to a Nature-Rich Life: 500 Ways to Enrich Your Family’s Health & Happiness. His books have been translated and published in 24 countries, and helped launch an international movement to connect children, families and communities to nature. He is co-founder and Chairman Emeritus of the Children & Nature Network, an organization helping build the movement.
About Richard’s upbringing and why he’s passionate about getting kids (and grownups) into nature
About what Richard calls Vitamin N (nature) and the characteristics of a Vitamin N deficit
The physical and general benefits of spending time in nature
The parent’s simple role in helping their children connect with nature
About the theory that man was domesticated by wolves
About the habitat of the heart
Some fascinating stories about human encounters with wild animals
Emotionally Resilient Tweens and Teens, Empowering Kids to Navigate Bullying, Teasing and Social Exclusion
You can find kim john payne online at www.simplicityparenting.com
Kim John Payne is a consultant and trainer to over 230 U.S. independent and public schools. He has been a school counselor, adult educator, consultant, researcher, educator and a private family counselor for twenty seven years. He is the best-selling author of Simplicity Parenting: Using the Extraordinary Power of Less to Raise Calmer, Happier and More Secure Kid. He is also the Director of the Simplicity Project a multi media social network that explores what really connects and disconnects us to ourselves and to the world.
Why it’s important to refrain from labeling kids as bullies or victims
Why bullies target reactive kids
The characteristics of reactive kids and how you can help your child be less reactive
and therefore less targeted
Why it’s better to coach your child through a bullying encounter
than to confront the parents of the bullying child
How cyberbullying differs from in-person bullying and how to protect your child
The Dirt Cure: Healthy Food, Healthy Gut, Happy Child
YOU CAN FIND MAYA SHETREAT ONLINE AT WWW.DRMAYA.COM
Maya Shetreat, MD is a neurologist, herbalist, urban farmer, and author of The Dirt Cure: Healthy Food, Healthy Gut, Happy Child (Simon and Schuster, 2016), which has been translated into ten languages. She has been featured in the New York Times, The Telegraph, NPR, Sky News, The Dr. Oz Show and more. Dr. Maya is the founder of the Terrain Institute, where she teaches Terrain Medicine, earth-based programs for transformational healing. She works and studies with indigenous communities and healers in Ecuador, and is a lifelong student of ethnobotany, plant healing, and the sacred.
Why we need to have a balance between modern science and indengous windom
About germ theory versus terrain theory
A new perspective on the immune system
How and when to treat a fever without over-the-counter fever reducers
Why getting out in nature supports your child’s physical, mental, and intellectual development